B L A ME
I like seeing small words inside of big ones that connect to the meaning of a word or sentence. This is not an original idea, but it is a saying that has stuck with me.
When you blame someone you are using negative energy. Negative energy makes us not happy in that moment. Can you blame someone with just one thought or do you dwell on that thought and let it fester in your mind? What emotions do we feel when we blame someone? Mad or anger comes to mind right away. These are negative emotions, and do not help us be happy. Think about it this way:
Blame -----> negative thoughts and emotions -----> feeling unhappy ----->blaming them for you not feeling happy -----> negative thoughts and emotions -----> feeling unhappy
See how it's a cycle? And it's worse when we blame ourselves because then guilt and shame come into play (more on those later this week). A few days ago I wrote about giving yourself permission to make mistakes, do you see how it's all related? When you blame yourself you are dwelling on a mistake you made. Think about this:
Happiness and unhappiness cannot live in the same moment at the same time.
I come back to this truth all the time, it's one of the saying that I live with, one of my mission statements.
I'd love to hear what you think of this saying and what it means to you.